Wednesday, November 28, 2012

KEEPING THE DREAM ALIVE WITH AUTHOR, KATE DOLAN

THE DREAM
 To find an interesting future, one with different challenges each day, a chance of excitement and yet security, and the opportunity to love and be loved.





Happy Wednesday Everyone,

Meet amazing dreamer, historical author, Kate Dolan.
Personally, I think Kate has super powers. This extraordinary woman has published nine novels and three novellas while being a full-time mom and working part-time. Having lived the life of a full-time mom for years― kids pulling at me in every direction at once―I don’t know how she was able to rub two words together. Thirteen books…that is incredibly impressive.

What I find so inspiring about Kate's life is that she seeks out challenges. I see my daily challenges as a burden I have to overcome. She sees her challenges as a source of excitement, opportunity.

Kate, after reading your interview, I have decided I need to adopt your definition of challenge. As for your― THE DREAM―it’s my primary dream as well. It’s should be everyone’s primary dream. I can’t thank you enough for being part of this series. Please take a moment and tell us a little about yourself.

Kate Dolan

I have an eclectically suburban life. Married with two kids in high school, I’m fortunate enough to not work full time at a paying job at present so I can write fiction, blog about history, coach my daughter’s jump rope team, and earn a little money doing some part time administrative and bookkeeping work for another writer. Since I’m a history nut, I like to participate in living history events whenever I can. I write historical fiction that has too much romance to please pure history readers and not enough to satisfy true romance fans and is probably a little too goofy to fit in either category. I also write contemporary mysteries under the name K.D. Hays, but those, too, focus on relationships more than the "whodunit" aspect of a classic category mystery. But real life doesn't fit in a category, and I do think that focusing on the goofy, fun aspects of living make the journey a lot more enjoyable.


When I started to write this, I realized that while I feel I had achieved many of my dreams, I couldn’t really articulate what they were. Oh, there were some easy ones – my dream of owning a new car was realized when we bought our minivan eleven years ago. I still think of it as my “new” car even though it has 160,000 miles on it and I’m afraid it will break down every time I pull onto the highway.


The fulfillment of smaller dreams like this can be satisfying, but unfortunately more often, as soon as I get what I want, I forget how much I wanted it and just take it for granted. Maybe that’s why it is hard to figure out just what major dreams have come true in my life.


Having a novel published was a dream but not THE dream. It’s part of a series of dreams – being able to finish the first draft of an entire novel, allowing someone other than my mom to read it, finding a publisher who deemed it worthy of publication – those were all part of the series. Later on came success in tiny increments which, while frustrating when watching the more direct path of others, does make me appreciate each step just a bit more.


But even the dreams related to writing are not THE dream.


I think for me THE dream was to find an interesting future, one with different challenges each day, a chance of excitement and yet security, and the opportunity to love and be loved.


And I’m there. Sometimes I have to remind myself, though.


Challenges are just that – they are challenging. They require thought and effort to solve. They keep me from growing bored, but at the cost of frustration, tension, anxiety and exhaustion. I am in a love/hate relationship with challenge, but I cannot truly live without it. And the fact that my challenges may be mundane does not make them easier to get through. On a given afternoon, my challenges may include (1) getting my son to a baseball game in county X at 5:00 when my daughter and I are coaching jump rope in county Y from 4:30-6:30 and we live in county Z (2) getting my heroine to stop seeing the hero as a bacon-brained nincompoop (3) translating the terms of a contract from legalese to something approaching English, and (4) trying to get the dogs to pose for a blog picture in front of a simulated place setting of a medieval banquet staged in my dining room.


The challenges are different every day. Many of them aren’t terribly interesting, like trying to walk the dogs, empty the dishwasher and clean the rabbit cage before I have to leave to pick up one of the kids for an orthodontist appointment. But even if not particularly exciting, the challenges are different each day, and I know myself well enough now to see that I need variety in my day. When I worked at a traditional 9 to5 job the routine was pure torture. I went to law school thinking that when I got a "real" job, my days would be interesting. But the work was still the same, and the routine bored me beyond belief. In the eclectic life I live these days, there’s still work, and that means there’s still torture, but it’s interrupted by moments where I truly enjoy what I’m doing, whether it’s taking down the sarcastic exchange between characters in my head, listening to my son and his friends rib each other during the carpool home from cross country practice or helping a jumper do her first double under.

I can escape to another life any time I sit down at the keyboard. It’s excitement with security because I can leave that world behind any time it becomes uncomfortable (or if I want a fresh cup of coffee or the clothes dryer goes off). If I was an underworld spy living a real life of excitement, I wouldn’t have an “escape” key. And excitement is all well and good, but at the end of the day, coffee motivates me more.


 Have I achieved critical acclaim? Not really. Have a million people read my books? Definitely not. Am I happy with the stories I’ve created? Sometimes, it depends on when you ask me. Have a made a lot of money? Definitely not (times ten to the infinite power).


But I have challenges, I have family and friends to love (and use in my stories!) and I have variety. That dream is real. And I hope I can keep it that way!  

What's next? I guess that my next dream is just a continuation of the one I'm living now. My dream is to keep the variety of challenges in my life, and to be brave enough to take on new tasks even if there's a very good chance I'll humiliate myself in the process. One of these days I will need to start earning real money so part of the dream will be to find a way to derive more income without losing the variety and spontaneity that I crave. And the ability to get up and get coffee whenever I want--that's something I'll need to keep as well.



This is Kate Dolan's new release, Change of Address, just in time for Christmas.





Excerpt from Change of Address by Kate Dolan

Though he could see no flames coming from the house, smoke poured out the open front door and drifted up from the behind the building as well. The pungent aroma of burning rotten wood filled his lungs as he drew closer.

“Mary?” he called out, hoping she was out in back of the house.

There was no answer.

“Mary? Mary Puckett?”

He stopped for a moment, wondering whether to look around outside but decided to go inside before the fire grew any worse.

He saw no sign of Mary or any flames in the smoke-filled kitchen or parlor, so he charged up the stairs. Puckett may have been smoking his pipe in bed and set the straw ablaze. “Mary!” He could imagine tiny little Mary trying desperately to wake her drunken father or using all her weight to drag him from the—

His pace slowed as he realized there did not seem to be any fire upstairs. The first chamber he glanced in was empty of everything save a few trunks. And when he stepped inside the chamber next to it, he found more trunks and a young lady of uncommon beauty standing next to them with her back against the non-flaming wall, eying him warily.

“I think you must have the wrong house.” She spoke in a deliberately slow and calm voice, as if trying to soothe an excited horse. But shaking in her hands and the trepidation in her expressive gray eyes showed that she was plainly afraid of him as an unknown intruder. “There is no ‘Mary’ here, sir, so please be on your way.”

“I was looking for Mary Puckett, the girl who lives here,” he said stupidly. Obviously this striking blonde incomparable was not Mary or even vaguely related to her. The young lady’s speech, manners and dress plainly revealed gentle breeding. But why was she here? The Pucketts had lived in this old house as long as he could remember.

But now that he thought about it, Isabel had mentioned something about new tenants somewhere. If he’d realized who the new tenants would be, he would have paid more attention.

“I’m sorry, I…” He really could not think of how to apologize properly for his shocking intrusion.

When she nodded for him to leave, he immediately bowed and stepped out of the room, but despite his wish not to frighten or offend the young lady any further, he could not resist the urge to peek into the last bedchamber.

“She said to be on your way!” From behind the door came a screaming banshee wielding a handful of sticks which she used to swat him on the side of his head. The banshee couldn’t have been much more than Mary’s age but she had obviously enjoyed a healthier diet over the course of her life because she was as stout and strong as a ploughman.

“Ouch! There are thorns in—” His words were cut off by another swat from the banshee’s bundle of branches.

“Out, vile intruder!” the girl demanded in an imperious squeak. “You have no right to invade our home.” She raised her weapon to strike again but this time he was ready and was able to intercept the blow, grab the bundle of sticks and twist them out of her hands.

“Hey!” she protested. “Those are mine.”

“No, they’re mine, actually. And I do have the right to be on the premises. We own the land here and everything on it.” He glanced down at the bundle in his hands. “Including the thorns.”

“Oh,” said a hard feminine voice from behind him. “I suppose we must apologize, then.”

He turned to see the young lady he’d seen initially, an older and more refined version of the blonde banshee who’d hit him, glowering at him with an expression as dark as her face was fair. It was without a doubt the single most unapologetic apology he’d ever received. 

“Are we to expect visits such as this on a regular basis?” She eyed the bundle of sticks as if she wished to seize it for her own use.


Bride of Belznickel is Kate's first and only ghost story.



Hannah Brown is forced to spend the Christmas holidays far from home with cousins who ridicule her at every opportunity. To get revenge, she tries to scare them by making up stories about the Belznickel, the Christmas demon.
Then her stories start to come alive…



How to find Kate Dolan
Her website: www.katedolan.com
Her very interesting blog: www.katedolan.com/blog
Facebook pages 
twitter is https://Twitter.com/KDHays



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Wednesday, November 14, 2012

KEEPING YOUR DREAMS ALIVE WITH AUTHOR, SHARON BUCHBINDER


Rejection is an opportunity to learn. It means I missed the mark, not that I failed.






Hi Everyone,


I’m so honored to introduce this week’s dreamer extraordinaire, Romance Author, Sharon Buchbinder.  I met Sharon the day I joined Maryland Romance Writers. I can’t tell you how nervous I was rolling into that meeting. I was the first to arrive and Sharon [the chapter’s President] was alone in the room. The hospitality committee hadn’t even arrived. I introduced myself and Sharon welcomed me like we were long lost friends.  She made me feel so welcome, that I relaxed immediately, and thoroughly enjoyed the meeting. That night, I downloaded her first book and read it cover to cover.


Sharon reminds me a lot of the gutsy, strong-willed, independent heroines I like to write about. What is so inspiring about Sharon’s journey is that no matter how much the world beat her down, both physically and emotionally, she never gave up on herself. In fact, she used her dreams to help rise above the abuse and become the woman she wanted to be―and that is no easy task.


Sharon, your amazing words: "Rejection is an opportunity to learn. It means I missed the mark, not that I failed," will be posted where I can see them daily. Thank you so much for sharing your dreams with us. Would you please take a moment and tell us a little about yourself?

I’ve been writing fiction since I was in high school and have the rejection slips to prove it—including a script for “The Man from U.N.C.L.E.” submitted in my hand-writing (I didn’t own a typewriter) on yellow legal paper.

After I graduated with a BA in Psychology and no job, I realized my dreams of working in the attic writing great prose would have to take a back seat to the simple pleasures of eating, drinking, and having a roof over my head.

Fast forward a few decades, and I had a career path that would make all but the kindest say, “What were you thinking?” After working in health care delivery for years, I became a researcher, then an academic. I had it all– a terrific, supportive husband, an amazing son, and a wonderful job. But that itch to write (some call it obsession), kept beckoning me to “come on back” to writing fiction. I spent one whole month away doing nothing but writing fiction, the first of many drafts of my first novel. After almost eight years, that first novel has finally been published as SOME OTHER CHILD.





People of all ages have forgotten how to dream. What inspired you to dream?

As a child it was a way to escape an abusive environment. An unwanted child, my mother made a point every single day of my life to tell me I should have never been born. She followed that message up with physical abuse. Dreaming took me away from that bad mother to a story in my head where I had a good mother and was loved.

We all place obstacles in our path which brings our dreams to a dead stop. I call these obstacles dream killers. What was your dream killer and how did you overcome it?

I have been writing since I could hold a pencil. I stopped my creative writing when I married and worked 80 hours a week. Then I had a baby. Then, then, then…at age 52 I had my mid-life realization that if I didn’t go back to my passion of writing fiction then, when would I?

How do you keep the dream alive under extreme adversity – external or internal?

Every rejection is an opportunity to learn. It means I missed the mark, not that I failed. I adjust my course and keep going back. My mother said I was stubborn, like my grandmother who was deaf and non-speaking. I call it persistence.

When you reached the top, how did it feel?

Well, I’m not at the top—yet! LOL! But it felt wonderful to have DESIRE AND DECEPTION nominated for the 2011 RT Best Erotic Fiction category. It still feels good.

How did realizing your dream change you?

I felt validated. Pursuing my crazy dream of writing fiction wasn’t irrational.
The added bonus is that my fiction writing has improved my non-fiction writing. I’m using fiction techniques in case studies and teaching students and other faculty how to make their cases come to life and engage the reader.

What's next? What new dream would you like to reach for?

New York Times best-selling author, of course! LOL! In the meantime, I’m working on my latest book, KISS OF THE VIRGIN QUEEN, the story of the Queen of Sheba and King Solomon and the impact of their epic romance on their descendant, Eliana Solomon, Jinn Hunter. 


Other books by Sharon:







                     Nominated for the 2011 RT Best Erotic Fiction



To learn more about Sharon, you can find her here:

Twitter: @sbuchbinder


Where to buy Sharon's books:

SOME OTHER CHILD http://www.amazon.com/dp/B009JX31KK
KILLER KISSES http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0080LR1XA
DESIRE AND DECEPTION http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0058OIY2E





Sharon and I would love to hear from you.  To leave a comment, click on the tiny word, comment, at the end of the post. Sorry it’s so hard to see.
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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

KEEPING YOUR DREAMS ALIVE WITH ARTIST, HANNA YANGILMAU




Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.―Thoreau




Happy Wednesday, Everyone,

I began this blog series because I thought our young adults somehow stopped dreaming, and the very idea scared me to my toes. Well, my guest today, Hanna Yangilmau, has blown my previous assumption right out of the water.

My daughter and Hanna met in freshmen English on their first day of high school. Hanna, Megan and five other students bonded that period. The English Mafia was formed: friendships for life.



From Left to Right
Chris, Shannon, Melinda, Megan, Hanna, Joe, Cole

           

I have always considered Hanna to be the quiet, peaceful member of the group. After graduation, like the other members of the Mafia, Hanna set off to college. But sadly, circumstances beyond her control forced Hanna to place her college dreams on hold. What Hanna  does not tell you in her interview is that today she holds down two jobs, helps her sister with her tuition bill and has started her own business. Check out her shoes below. They are brilliant! And she doesn't just paint shoes. Hanna can paint anything on almost any surface.

Hanna still has a way to go to reach her dream, but this incredible young woman won’t be able to stay in the background for long. Her strength, determination, and amazing talent one day very soon will burst her into the world and she’s going to soar.

Hanna, I am very honored to have you as a guest today. Thank you for sharing your dreams with us.  Would you take a minute and tell us a little about yourself.  


My name is Hanna Yangilmau. I'm twenty years old, currently taking some time off from school and figuring out where I want to go to study while I make lattes and frappes at Starbucks. I'm an illustration major, a hopeful animation major, and currently make a little bit of money on the side decorating accessories. Shoes, for the most part.








People of all ages have forgotten how to dream. What inspired you to dream?

My parents have always been very supportive of my art. It's sort of surprising, considering how many kids you hear of who have talent but whose parents want them to go into something more practical, something that makes more money. Maybe it's because they're so spiritual, but my mom and dad have always put less emphasis on practicality and money-making and more on doing what makes me happy. Most of the time they're more enthusiastic about my chances than I am.

We all place obstacles in our path which brings our dreams to a dead stop. I call these obstacles dream killers. What was your dream killer and how did you overcome it?

I'm still in the midst of mine, actually. Not being in school is difficult, especially when I have friends in universities like MICA and CIA and I can see the leaps and bounds they're making in such a short time under awesome instruction. It's disheartening, and when I'm disheartened the inspiration comes to a screeching halt. But my teachers, family, and especially my friends are all so encouraging and believe in me so much. I remember one professor telling me that I had an unteachable talent, and a friend who almost exclusively hangs out with art students telling me that I'm better than all of them, and that's how I know I need to make time for art and I can't let my love for it die. Because I'm not imagining that it's what I'm meant to do. Other people can see it as well. Sometimes I just need reminding. 



How do you keep the dream alive under extreme adversity – external or internal? 

Honestly? I watch movies. I read books. I look at the changing leaves. I see a pretty girl. Every time I feel my dreams slipping and my future changing into this hard, unhappy, unfulfilled expanse, something small will remind me that I need to be painting. Sometimes it's reading about other amazing artists, sometimes it's a gnarled old tree or an interesting face or a weird pose my cat's sleeping in and my hands will just itch for a sketchbook and pencil. It's, uh, really cliche and all that. But it's true. 

  

When you reached the top, how did it feel?

I still haven't gotten there yet! I'm hoping it'll feel pretty nifty.

How did realizing your dream change you?

Well, right now I'm focusing on me, for the most part. Hopefully realizing my dream will give me the time and peace of mind to help others. I'm still a kid, kind of, and I know I make mistakes and I'm pretty selfish right now. But someday I want to be a lot more about other people. I want to adopt some cute kids with names like Harper and Gideon and volunteer a lot more and travel to other countries, not just to see all the touristy areas but to know what it's like for people who don't live in the richest nation in the world. That's just what I hope, anyway. That being an artist will make me a better person.

What's next? What new dream would you like to reach for?

Well, my dream first and foremost is to be an illustrator and to travel. After that, I have some other ideas in mind - animator, writing my own children's books, having a family, owning a dozen or so pets - but who knows? I have time. I can change my mind. That's the beauty of being young and imaginative.






For more about Hanna Yangilmau, you can visit her blog at:
http://baker-street-irregular.tumblr.com/


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